3 Books to Help You Become a Better Conversationist

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Everyone loves to talk. Whether it’s about their day, what they’re reading, or something that happened in the news, it is a way to pass time and share thoughts. 

But not everyone feels comfortable with being a good conversationalist.

Here at http://macledge.com/ has some more information about the Books to Help You Become a Better Conversationist. 

In this blog post we have compiled three books that can help you become a better conversationist

“How To Talk So People Will Listen” by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen, 

“Talk Less Say More” by David Lieberman and Phyllis Diamond, and 

“The Art of Conversation” by Celeste Headlee.

1. How to Talk So People Will Listen by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen

This book was written by two Harvard Law School professors with the intent of helping readers (and their students) improve their conversational skills, and features research that shows how poor communicators often shut down valuable lines of discussion and interaction. 

The authors break down effective communication into three sections: Speak, Listen, and Change.

They use numerous anecdotes and examples to help the reader learn the art of listening (waiting until someone is finished talking before speaking), changing one’s own behavior (for example, not interrupting when someone else is speaking), and effectively responding to what another person says.

They also talk about stating opinions as facts, which can often backfire and make people shut down, stating opinions as questions, which shows the listener you value the input they have to offer, and using open-ended questions. 

All of these tactics are useful for those who wish to be better conversationalists.

2. Talk Less Say More by David Lieberman and Phyllis Diamond

Another book that was written with the purpose of helping readers be more effective during conversations, Talk Less Say More also focuses on listening skills. 

The book is broken down into three sections: The Art of Listening, Three Tools for Better Listening , and Six Steps to Great Communication.

Among the topics touched upon in these sections are how to prioritize your listening, use active listening, and distinguish whether someone is telling you what they think or feeling.

Another useful tip for conversationalists is listening to the tone of the person you are having a conversation with and not just the words they’re speaking.

For example, saying “I’m sorry to hear that” in a sarcastic manner does not show empathy and may offend the person who is speaking.

3. The Art of Conversation by Celeste Headlee

The Art of Conversation was written by Celeste Headlee, who is the award-winning host of NPR’s Talk of the Nation. 

With step-by-step guides on what to do during different types of conversations (such as phone calls, e-mails, and in person), this book concentrates on what to do instead of what not to do.

She teaches how to stop talking about yourself and instead ask open-ended questions when in conversation. 

As well, she discusses how to take turns talking and listening, and how to end the conversation in a positive way.

Headlee also covers what she calls faux pas (things that can ruin a conversation), such as interrupting someone when they are speaking, texting or emailing while in a conversation, and using your phone during a dinner or meeting. 

She goes over what you should do if you make one of these mistakes (apologize and try not to do it again) and also gives advice on apologies (don’t apologize if it wasn’t your fault).

While no book can tell you everything that you need to know about being a better conversationalist, each of the three books above will give you a slightly different set of skills to use in almost any kind of conversation.

4. The Conversation Non-voter

When people cannot be bothered to vote it is a problem. Whether they are too busy or not directly affected, if they do not vote they are a non-voter. 

This is a problem because a non-vote can eliminate somebody from being able to voice an opinion about policy and legislation that will affect them in the future. It also puts the issue of voting before other issues that should take higher priority. 

This directly affects everyone by giving freedom from getting involved in issues that will come up again and again at time when it is easy to vote on them. 

A proper understanding of why people do not vote can greatly help you communicate effectively with them to get them to vote.The Conversation Non-voter will help you do this.


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